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Alexander Cheves

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Alexander Cheves, one of America’s leading sex writers, is best known for his work as a contributing editor at The Advocate and his widely read “Sexy Beast” column. He is currently a columnist for Out Magazine and also runs the popular Love, Beastly advice blog, notable for its frank, unflinching answers to questions about Queer sex. His work has also appeared in VICE, Them, and other magazines. He is a recipient of a 2021 Excellence in Journalism award from the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association and has been named to the Out 100. Cheves is a graduate of the Savannah College of Art & Design.

Cheves excels at portraying sex and place, but more than anything he is a perceptive and shrewd writer about people. He approaches the characters who populate these pages with a generous helping of empathy, which makes the sometimes-extreme behavior he describes feel unexpectedly accessible... poignant insights and shocking moments of beauty.

Kirkus Reviews

This is an unfettered memoir... This kind of deep, resonant, penetrating confessional is a rare treat to be savored. Conceptually combustive and executed with great introspection, this is exceptionally brazen, epiphanic queer writing which can only be described as "carnal and poetic," much akin to the tattooed words of Jack Kerouac emblazoned across the author's ribcage.

Jim Piechota, Bay Area Reporter

My Love Is a Beast is a life-changer... it will startle you with its frankness and lyricism. It is the most honest, shameless, beautiful [sexual memoir] I've ever read. Highly, highly recommend.

Janet Hardy, Co-author, The Ethical Slut

A much needed and influential voice, Cheves shocks while also liberating and healing... This book cements him as an important author.

Dr. Chris Donaghue, Host of Loveline and author of Rebel Love

A rare memoir... provocative and poetic. I loved every uncomfortable minute... it’s a must-read.

Diane Anderson-Minshall, CEO and Editorial Director, Pride Media and author of Queerly Beloved: A Love Story Across Genders and four novels.

Savor every word of this literary bacchanal. I predict it will catapult to the top of Queer book offerings.

Race Bannon, Author and community leader

Cheves tells his story of early gay life as it should be told: terrifying, daring, angry, and so very fragile.

Christopher Harrity, The Advocate

This book is a poignant rebellion against the constant pathologizing of all things Queer.